This post was sponsored by The Allstate Foundation as part of an Influencer Activation for Influence Central and all opinions expressed in my post are my own.
Abuse. Until now, I’ve never touched on this topic. It’s not an easy, happy subject to talk about and admitting you’ve been through it is hard because it makes you feel weak. But it shouldn’t. I, myself, have been in an abusive relationship and it’s finally time to speak about it.
Abuse in a relationship seems to take many forms. Until I was in one, I wasn’t aware of how much abuse affects a person’s life. It reaches many areas, including finances. In fact, financial abuse occurs in 99% of all domestic violence cases and is the biggest reason victims stay in or return to abusive relationships.
In my relationship, I remember being in the dark about our finances and since I didn’t work, I didn’t necessarily have “my own money” to manage. We shared money and there was plenty to live off of, but I didn’t have direct access to it. I wasn’t the one paying bills, saving money, or paying off debts, which was difficult because financial management has always been important to me. It made me feel extremely dependent and powerless. These emotions were added to already feeling lonely, worthless, and insecure, among other things. Even so, I was financially being taken care of and that was a big reason why I stayed in the relationship.
The Allstate Foundation wants to help with this major issue that many face. Allstate Foundation Purple Purse hopes to help end domestic violence and financial abuse through financial empowerment. Purple Purse gets fundraising going for nonprofits to provide necessary resources and tools for financial empowerment to victims of financial abuse.
Bringing awareness to this topic is so important for me because I didn’t have the knowledge or resources in front of me when I needed it most. I wish I could’ve felt more empowered then, to know that everything would turn out fine, financially and more. I just needed that extra push to finally make a change. And I did. I ended the relationship and was able to build myself back up again. It was an incredible feeling to do that for myself and I couldn’t be happier with my life now. I want other victims of abuse to know that they’re not alone and I want to spread as much information about abuse as I can. Knowledge is definitely power.
Watch this short video from Allstate Foundation Purple Purse to learn about financial abuse.